The early days of a relationship are exciting, but they can also be a breeding ground for self-sabotage. If you tend to overthink, rush things, or play mind games, you might be unknowingly setting yourself up for failure. Here’s how you might be ruining a good thing—and how to stop before it’s too late.
1. Overanalyzing Everything
If you dissect every text and emoji like it’s a secret code, you’re setting yourself up for stress. Overthinking creates problems that don’t exist. How to Stop: Relax. If something concerns you, ask directly instead of spiraling into assumptions.
2. Moving Too Fast
Already picturing your future wedding after three dates? Slow down. Rushing emotionally or physically can overwhelm the other person and skip essential relationship-building steps. How to Stop: Enjoy the present moment. Let things develop naturally instead of forcing an outcome.
3. Not Being Yourself
Trying to be perfect or pretending to like things just to impress them? That’s exhausting and unsustainable. How to Stop: Be authentic. The right person will appreciate you for who you truly are.
4. Playing Games
Waiting three days to text back or acting distant to seem cool? These outdated tactics only lead to confusion and frustration. How to Stop: Be direct. If you like them, show it. Honest communication beats mind games every time.
5. Comparing to Past Relationships
Constantly measuring your current relationship against past ones or social media highlight reels robs you of enjoying what you have. How to Stop: Focus on your unique connection. Every relationship has its own pace and story.
6. Assuming the Worst
If they don’t text back immediately, it doesn’t mean they’ve lost interest. Jumping to conclusions creates unnecessary tension. How to Stop: Give them the benefit of the doubt. People have lives beyond their phones.
7. Trying to Be Perfect
Perfection isn’t real, and chasing it only leads to pressure and disappointment. How to Stop: Embrace your flaws. The right person will find them endearing, not deal-breakers.
For a deeper dive into the ups and downs of dating, check out Ghosts, Texts, and Exes by Rocci Jackson. Available on Amazon, it’s packed with wisdom to help you navigate the dating scene with confidence. Online dating is a marathon, not a sprint—so stay patient and enjoy the adventure!
